I’m a bad mom friend and it’s ok


Scrolling through Facebook and seeing endless posts about the awesome fun days other moms have had. Getting their Littles together to play and catching up on gossip while sipping coffee at the playground sounds like a typical mom thing to do, right?

Nope. Not me. I don’t “do” these kinds of play dates. I have friends with kids, sure, but I really don’t see the point in using the time I could be getting housework or actual work done sitting at a playground talking about who is mad at who right now. Don’t get me wrong, if you’re one of those moms, more power to you. I’m 9 months pregnant, I have dishes overflowing in my sink, laundry has been piled up for days, I have no idea what we are going to do for dinner, and I am tired. The last thing I feel I should be doing is meeting up with friends to share juicy news with giving the kids time to play being my excuse. 

I love my friends. Every single inch of them, and without them, I would not have been able to get through some of the hardest times of my life. But I just can’t go sit at the park or fun center talking about every little thing going on in our lives. My favorite kinds of friends are those that know and understand that, despite my undying love for them, I just don’t feel like hanging out with them. Or talking on the phone for 2 hours catching up. 

I’m not anti-social. I’m not stuck up. I’m just doing my mom thing. If you need me, I’m here to help to the best of my ability. But asking me to get the kids together for a play date while we “catch up” is most likely going to be met with a empty maybe. Which means it’s most likely not going to happen. Sorry, not sorry. 

I know I sound super smug or even lazy in my reasoning, but I just want you to know that it’s ok to avoid play dates like the plague. Because we have crap to do. And no amount of gossip, catching up, or sipping lattes on a park bench is going to get it done for me.